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Finding Love After Abuse

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  Fairy tales, wedding wishes, romance in hearts and flowers, it's what all little girls grow up wanting and picturing for themselves. It's like we have this pre-programmed idea in our brains about how relationships are suppose to be. The "chick flick" romantic comedies we tend to place ourselves in when we watch and say "That's the guy I want. The relationship I want"... I had those moments, I had those wants, but unfortunately I came to the realization after almost a decade with the "man of my dreams", several affairs, and years of control and neglect later that the magical life of a romantic relationship wasn't meant for me. I didn't question its existence, I knew love and romance existed it just clearly wasn't for me. I wasn't deserving of it I suppose. Maybe I held out for what I thought love was for too long. I didn't start seeing my now ex husband until I was 17 and there were none before him. I had this idea ...

To Love Yourself First: A Love Breakdown

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To Love Yourself... The most difficult yet most rewarding love there is   Love, we all crave it. That connection of energy from our counterpoint on this earth. That feeling of completeness. One could say it's the realist form of magic we face in life. Love is a natural need that we all desire and all spend our entire lives searching for.  I've had my issues with love. My first love was the abusive type. Something so many can relate to. It truly almost ruined my sense of what true love really is. Love can come in many ways and many forms. It can build us up and completely tear us down. It's can make us or it can break us. People deal with love differently. Some refuse to let it in and others will do anything for it. I think the most dangerous thing I have seen in love is how so many will completely sacrifice who they are to make another happy out of fear of being alone. So many of us search for validation in another. Relationship after relationship we start...